8 Winsome First Date Rules For Guys

It is important to develop skills for dating….after all it is great to be able to get a number and set up a date. However if you flop each time you go out on one you are in trouble. If you keep these 8 “rules” in mind, you are already ahead of the game.

1) Open doors for her – This one is an old rule and still holds true. It is such a simple act that girls greatly appreciate. Now don’t make a spectacle of it. Do it as though it is something you always do and it is part of your nature. It shows you are helpful and caring. Points for you!

2) Approach the first date as though it is her time to impress you – It takes some time to see if you actually “click” with a girl. The first date should be exactly that – your time to see if she is a fit for you.

Approaching the date this way can be very helpful. First, it lowers the pressure you put on yourself. Second, you portray yourself through your body language and actions that you are the one being sought after. Girls always like a certain amount of chase.

3) Act like a friend (even drop a line about “being friends”) – This plays some major tricks on girls. About 15 minutes into the conversation saying something like “So far so good. It’s always a good thing meeting new friends isn’t it?” can have a major impact. It confuses her as she is most likely used to guys acting like a boyfriend right form the start. Believe me, it’s powerful stuff.

Lean back, laugh, have fun and act like her friend (at least at the start). It builds comfort and puts her in a position where she views you as a challenge.

4) Don’t treat the date like an interview – A first date typically involves SO many questions. “Where did you grow up?” “What do you do?” “Tell me about your family?” ….blah blah blah. A lot of the times these are just ways of filling up dead air.

If you have already taken my free week long crash course via email (available at my website), then you know girls aren’t attracted to the same old predictable guy. Ask these types of questions and that is who you are. Instead, bring some spice and excitement to the table.

Ask goofy questions. Talk about the latest celebrity scandals, talk about the neighborhood drunk that keeps waking you up……make it funny! A question like “are you as sad as I am that Britney and K-Fed aren’t together anymore?” brings up an opportunity for funny conversation that she won’t be expecting. Believe me, this works!

5) Watch your body language – Always project confidence in your body language. Walk upright, put your shoulders back and hold your head up.Make eye contact and hold it. If your eyes are shifting a lot it shows nervousness.Make sure your gestures are slow and controlled. Many people make fast movements when they are nervous.Also, lean back while sitting and try not to cross your legs or arms.

All of this portrays confidence. Practice this if you need to, it can take some getting used to. But remember body language is a HUGE part of communication. All of this will help.

6) Try to take her somewhere fun or different – Let’s face it. Dinner and a movie is so predictable. I love going out for dinner. I still consider that a great date. But make sure the restaurant is unique or interesting.

Where I live we have a restaurant owned by a gay couple who collect rooster memorabilia. The whole place is covered with roosters and the owners are off the wall. It makes for a unique and fun dining experience.

Maybe there is a cool market you can take her to. Or a festival in town. Think of places where she most likely has never gone to with a guy.

And it also helps to go to more than one place. Venue changes help to make her feel comfortable with you as it gives the impression you have experienced more together. It also makes it feel like she has gone on an adventurous date.

7) Do not think that spending money on her will impress her. If you just start spending truckloads of cash on her on dinners, shows and flowers it gives off a real signal that you are chasing her.

It’s ok to buy her a meal if you offered to do so, but don’t offer to pay for absolutely everything. Remember, she likes to be challenged and you want her guessing whether or not you are interested in her.

8) Have fun – Ok, this one seems obvious. But it really is important. I always approach a date as though I am going to enjoy myself. I might not “dig” the girl, but I am still going to go out and have a good time.

I love women for obvious reasons. I also genuinely like their company, even if I am not attracted to them as more than “just friends”. Approach all your dates as though you are going to have fun regardless of whether the two of you “click” and you will have an edge.

There you have it. By keeping these rules in dating girls in mind not only do you have a much better chance of making your date heavily attracted to you, but you will also enjoy yourself more. It’s a win-win!

That’s all for now,

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